Shed Your Inhibitions Press

I spend a decent amount of time on social media sites – including Facebook and I know many other people do too. Now – I have a feeling many people who read this post will know there is a decent number of people on social sites who end up having cyber sex or phone sex with people they know on these sites.

Now – I’m not looking to start any problems for married couples and the vast majority of people I know who are having cyber sex and phone sex are single. Although I have spoken to a couple of married men who were interested in having phone sex – but more about that later.

An Official Description of Phone Sex – For Personal and Business Purposes

Phone sex is a type of virtual sex that refers to sexually explicit conversation between two or more persons via telephone, especially when at least one of the participants masturbates or engages in sexual fantasy. Phone sex conversation may take many forms, including (but not limited to): guided, sexual sounds, narrated, and enacted suggestions; sexual anecdotes and confessions; candid expression of sexual feelings or love; discussion of very personal and sensitive sexual topics; or just two people listening to each other masturbate.

Phone sex exists both in the context of intimate relationships (e.g., among distanced lovers), and as a commercial transaction between a paying customer and a paid professional. (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Phone_sex)

Phone sex does not involve physical contact between those participating in it. Couples may choose to engage in phone sex when the inconvenience of distance makes physical intimacy inopportune.  Even though the people involved in the call do not have physical contact with one another, they may:

• use webcams to watch each other
• one or each participant may masturbate during the call or chat
• one or each participant may talk with the other person about things they would like to do together
• one or each participant may share what they are doing to themselves while they are on the call or chat
• the conversation or chat can often lead to orgasm for one or both participants

These are some of the more common possibilities – what options would you add to the list?

Due to the potential for emotional intimacy between those who have engaged in phone sex, it is a matter of some debate whether phone sex is to be considered a form of infidelity when involving a person outside of a committed personal relationship. Nevertheless, phone sex should not be confused with prostitution wherein money is exchanged for real-life sexual services or physical interactions.

Limited Sex Life With Your Spouse

Earlier I mentioned some married men who wanted to have phone sex with someone and they said it was to compensate for a limited or non existent sex life with their wife. So, I suggested that they have phone sex with their wife. If both people could be opened minded – it could offer a chance to discuss what the other likes, or wants and needs from their sex life.

We all know people who feel they don’t get what they need from their significant other. I think most of us also know married individuals who have a very limited sex life. There are various reasons for this and I will keep my thoughts to myself about this situation. But, it does seem that couples who are in love with each other, but have no sex life or a very limited sex life – should be looking for ways to work their way back to each other — mentally, emotionally and physically.

Reasons for Phone Sex or Cyber Sex

Some reasons to engage in phone sex and/or cyber sex is because you are far away from your loved one. Sometimes this could be temporary – or it could be a long term situation. I will agree that it is NOT the same as touching the person and being with them in person. However, it is very possible to develop a great intimacy between two people with phone sex or cyber sex. This is especially true with people who are very open and who communicate well with one another.

Many people who spend time online – whether in chat rooms, on social networks, through webcam or any other way – will admit they have developed some incredible and long lasting relationships with people they met online. I have been very involved with online writing communities for about 8 years and I have many very good friends who I have gotten to know very well and who I can count on in difficult times – but I’ve never met them in person. It is amazing to find out how close you can become with people that you’ve never met — face to face. This is another example of that bond that we can develop with people online.

These are my thoughts on phone sex and cyber sex — I’d love to hear your thoughts.

Do you have phone sex or cyber sex? If so, why?

Have you developed close relationships with online friends?

Did I miss something else that should be mentioned? There is plenty of other possibilities — please post a comment and share your thoughts.